Every year January 1st seems to smack me in the face as if I hadn't been already been frantically thinking about the Eve itself, potential resolutions and what I hope for in the coming year... Truth is, it's all a bit much isn't it? We go full throttle into Christmas, do all the things associated with that and then find ourselves in the anti-climactic limbo that is the period between Christmas and New Year. And somehow, we expect ourselves to have resolved all of the issues from the previous year, tied up any and all lose ends and to be ready and rearing to go as soon as the sun rises on January 1st.....
If you're anything like me, then you need that between time to rest and gather yourself again after the fullness and intensity of Christmas. There certainly isn't a lot of head space or energy to already be preparing and planning for some major life changes in a week's time!
And that is why, I have created a 'new' New Year for myself. You see, this year, as January 1st came and went, I found myself saying 'well, Christmas doesn't really officially finish until 6th January anyway....' as a way to let myself off the hook for not being as prepared or as organised as one would hope (or is expected) to be.
And whilst I see the appeal of putting the previous year in a box and cutting all ties with it come the stroke of midnight on the 31st December, that's not really representative of how life works. Different parts of our lives blend into each other all the time. Whether that's work and home, friends and family or different past times seeping into our present - it's very rarely cleanly cut.
And since when do we have to be so STOP/START about it all? What's wrong with a gradual transition that eases us into the New Year? Where the previous year bleeds into the new one for a short period and wanes until it finally disappears (or doesn't). There's a lot of talk of leaving the past year behind but I don't think it's that easy, especially with 2020 - we're going to feel and see the affects of that year for a long time into the future, so why make life harder by expecting ourselves to perform the impossible?
Once I allowed myself to 'begin' on the 6th of January, I can't tell you how much easier I felt. Everything felt a little softer and definitely a lot less pressured.
Why January 6th? Well my love, this is a little nugget of observation left over from my Catholic upbringing. The 6th of January is the Feast of the Epiphany, when the 3 Magi (or Kings to you and me) visited Jesus with their gifts. As a result, it also signifies the last of the 12 days of Christmas. Christmas is DONE.
January 6th is known as the EPIPHANY. We can't not talk about that! An epiphany is a moment of great realisation or revelation which feels so much more appropriate than a resolution. I want to focus on what I want to realise in the New Year not what I want to resolve. To realise something is to become fully aware, to fully understand or to make happen (read: manifest).
So my dear, this comes as a note to say that you are allowed to ease yourself in and as an encouragement to reflect on what you want your New Year's realisation to be.
What will you realise this year?
With so many wishes for a brighter and more hopeful New Year!